FAQ: What do I do if I am out and someone that I don't know comes up to me?

When you were younger, your parents probably taught you never to talk with strangers. This is a good rule for children but in your teenage years that rule doesn't always seem to fit. There are lots of times when it is necessary to talk to someone that you don't know. Most strangers turn out to be nice people, but it is important that you do not trust everyone that you meet right away.

Know the warning signs and how to protect yourself:

• Be aware of anyone in a car who stops to talk to you or ask you for directions if you are walking down the street, even if you are in a familiar neighborhood. Try to keep your distance from the car and never offer to get in the car even if it sounds like the stranger is going in the same direction that you are headed. For example: Don't get in a car if a stranger tells you that there is some kind of an emergency requiring that they bring you home.
• Be assertive. If a person that you don't know comes up to you to start a conversation, you don't have to talk to them if you don't feel comfortable. Don't be afraid to sound rude if someone keeps bothering you. Stay calm and firmly and loudly say "NO". Remember that "NO" is a complete sentence - you don't have to explain yourself to someone that you don't know. If you don't want to talk to someone, don't do it.
• Be street smart. Not all dangerous strangers are immediately rude or forceful when you first meet them. It is important that you are aware of strangers, both men and women, who seem charming - the ones who make conversation and get important information about you without your even realizing it. Remember that you do not have to share any information, especially important details about yourself if you don't want to. For example, just because a stranger tells you where they live, it doesn't mean that you have to tell them where you live. Don't volunteer unnecessary information about your plans or even your full name. Remain in public where you are comfortable and surrounded by other people. You should never go off alone with someone you don't know.
• Be careful who you trust. Keep your distance from a new person until you have had the chance to learn about them. Don't trust someone who follows you around or won't leave you alone if you ask them to. You can make up code words with your family that they will use if there is an emergency at home. This way, if a stranger comes up to you and says that there is an emergency and that you need to leave with them, you can ask for the code words that only you and your parents know. Pay attention to how the stranger that you are talking to acts when there are other people around - see if they seem comfortable and continue acting normally even in the presence of security guards, store or restaurant employees, or other adults. If you are worried or nervous, you can go to police officers or to security guards with nametags and badges. You will also find people who may be able to help you at information desks and customer service desks at public places like the mall, and also restaurant or store managers.
• Be prepared. Check out self-defense classes in your city or town. Your local police department or school might offer classes that can teach you how to protect yourself and how to handle uncomfortable situations. Thinking ahead and planning for your safety is a way to feel powerful and confident!
  

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